Public Speaking: How Mindset Creates Opportunities-Part 2 (Your New Job)
Review of Part 1: Conditioned Self’s Job
In Public Speaking: How Mindset Creates Opportunities-Part 1 (Conditioned Self’s Job), you realized the potential harmful effects of the conditioned self on your ability to create opportunities through public speaking. You learned that the job of the conditioned self is to protect you from vulnerability, pain, and discomfort. You also saw how confidence manifests in your public speaking life when you believe in yourself.
Overcoming the Conditioned Self’s Lie & Seeing the Truth
Now that you know the conditioned self’s job and its seemingly importance to in your protection, you are ready to discover the truth of its lie.
Lie: It’s best to focus on the negatives and to judge yourself when publicly speaking.
Truth: It’s best to focus on your success, compare yourself to yourself, and remove judgment about self-worth when publicly speaking.
Your 4 New Job Tasks
- Approach the following empowerment strategies as a fun new job. You’re stepping into new thoughts and behaviors that are supporting the unique message you have to share with your audience and target market.
- Compare yourself to yourself. Look at your progress even in the presence of mistakes. Objectively acknowledge opportunities for improvement instead of attaching judgment. Tell the conditioned self that you are continually learning and you attach no worth, shame, or guilt to the outcome.
- Realize that it’s your job to nurture your conditioned self’s response to vulnerability. It is true that vulnerability by its very definition puts us at risk. Otherwise there would be no such thing as vulnerability. When you are speaking in front of others, you are vulnerable. Ultimately, what is your goal? Most likely, it’s to be of genuine help to someone in some way. Keep this as your measure of your success and no other measures. For example, if you puplicly speak, and feel that you have prepared to the best of your ability to help others with your information or product or service, then you have succeeded. Even if you haven’t’ prepared to the best of your ability, you still took the risk. Prepare more next time.
- Speak to the part of you that wants to criticize and pick at your performance. Tell it that you understand it is trying to protect you from pain. Tell it that you are not in pain because you are measuring yours success in comparison to how much you’ve grown. The only pain you may experience is in the from of learning from your experience. This is best described as discomfort. Explain to the conditioned self that discomfort is necessary for growth and is healthy.
Summary: Seeing the Truth of the Conditioned Self
Spend time teaching it ways to critique without attaching judgment, guilt, or shame. Replace those behaviors with objectivity, support from yourself, belief in yourself, and with comparison to how much you’ve grown and the risks you’ve taken. If it needs to refocus it’s job, assign it the new job of gently reminding you when you have forgotten to notice it’s judgmental tone.
To your success in seeing the truth of the conditioned self’s lie,